It’s been just three months since Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s divorce was finalised – just two-and-half years since the couple said ‘I do’ to a marriage that fans believed could be the greatest love story in showbiz.

And while the pair had stayed quiet about the reasons behind their shock split last April, last week Ben, 52, uncharacteristically spoke out about the breakdown of his 19-month whirlwind marriage to J-Lo, 55, labelling the reasons for their split as ‘embarrassing’.

Now a source says J-Lo, who has always been happy to speak candidly about her personal life to fans, is ‘seeing red’ after reportedly making a divorce pact with Ben to keep the details of their split private.

The insider says, ‘When they split up, they both agreed not to talk about it, and yet here he is going back on his word.

‘She doesn’t understand why he’s even talking about their divorce, he’s the one that’s always made such a big deal about wanting privacy and yet here he is milking his connection to her for the sake of his PR campaign.’

They add, ‘She has plenty of things she’d like to get off her chest but she’s been staying quiet out of respect for him. But not anymore, she’s sick and tired of his double standards. She’s seeing red.’

In an interview for GQ magazine, Ben, whose reluctance to ‘play up’ to cameras and the media had caused tension throughout his second marriage, opened up about the differences between himself and J-Lo – giving fans a heavy hint that her lack of privacy may have played a part in the breakdown of their relationship.

The Hollywood actor and director admitted, ‘The reason I don’t want to share [the details of their marriage and split is] that is just sort of embarrassing. It feels vulnerable.’

Appearing to reference J-Lo’s proficiency in the limelight, Ben added, ‘There are a lot of people who I think have handled celebrity more adeptly and more adroitly than I have, Jennifer among them. My temperament is to be a little bit more reserved and private than hers.’

To add salt to the wound, the Oscar winner also described his ex-wife of ten years, actress Jennifer Garner – with whom he shares Violet, 19, Fin, 16 and Sam, 13, with – as ‘wonderful’ and ‘great’.

Ben also sparked recent speculation that he wanted to reunite with his ex-wife, 52, who has been dating boyfriend Jon Miller for seven years, after the former couple were seen embracing on a recent paintball trip with their children.

And now the source says J-Lo has been left infuriated by the whole situation.

‘He really got her hackles up by using the word ‘embarrassing’,’ the insider says.

‘It doesn’t matter to her what the context was, she finds it incredibly thoughtless and disrespectful. Ben has been around long enough to know that a word like that is going to automatically make headlines. It’s just too juicy to ignore.’

And the source says Ben’s admission came as a shock to J-Lo, after the singer previoulsy revealed that Ben didn’t feel ‘comfortable’ with his personal life being in the limelight – something he has also admitted.

Speaking about her 2024 Prime documentary, The Greatest Love Story Never Told, Jennifer said, ‘I don’t think [Ben] is very comfortable with me doing all of this. But he loves me, he knows I’m an artist, and he’s gonna support me in every way he can…

‘He doesn’t want to stop me. But that doesn’t mean he’s comfortable being the muse.’

And now the source says that while Jennifer – who famously showed the whole production team every love note Ben had sent her when they were first dating back in 2002, without Ben’s go ahead – has kept quiet on the details of their divorce out of respect for Ben, she now feels that his broken promise has paved the way for her own tell-all.

The source says, ‘She’s now saying that two can play this game and feels he deserves to be taken down a peg or two for some of the atrocious things he’s said and done to her.

‘She’s biding her time but it won’t be long before she gets her revenge, if he thinks she’s just going to sit back and take this he is sorely mistaken.’

And while Ben also said that he has a lot of ‘respect’ for J-Lo, the source says that behind-the-scenes, Ben’s behaviour towards her tells a different story.

They add, ‘It doesn’t matter that he said a load of nice things about her, fact is she doesn’t buy a word of it since he’s so ice cold to her in person.

‘She’s also got wind of the fact that he’s still trash-talking her behind the scenes and accusing her of playing the victim. She doesn’t trust him one bit, she’s disgusted and ready to make him pay.’

This isn’t the first time J-Lo, who has had high profile marriages to Ojani Noa, from 1997 to 1998, Chris Judd, from 2001 to 2003 and Marc Anthony, with whom she shares twins Max and Emme, 17, from 2004 to 2014, has been burned by her fame.

Speaking of her first split from Ben back in 2004, J-Lo opened up about how she and Ben both struggled with the ‘excessive media attention’.

But now the source says J-Lo feels that Ben is speaking out now to promote his own image and is adamant that she will have the final say.
The source says, ‘Her understanding was that they were going to remain silent on all of this, or at the very least they’d clear the messaging with each other ahead of time.

‘She never expected to wake up one morning and read a load of headlines about him spilling his guts. It wasn’t his place to say any of these things because it goes totally against what they’d agreed on as their media strategy.’

They add, ‘He has definitely unleashed the dragon because she’s now plotting to get even with a tell-all interview of her own.’