{"id":3506,"date":"2024-09-06T19:30:00","date_gmt":"2024-09-06T19:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/closer\/?p=3506"},"modified":"2024-09-06T16:32:50","modified_gmt":"2024-09-06T16:32:50","slug":"im-a-sex-coach-heres-the-one-thing-every-woman-wants-in-bed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/closer\/2024\/09\/06\/im-a-sex-coach-heres-the-one-thing-every-woman-wants-in-bed\/","title":{"rendered":"\u2018I\u2019m a sex coach \u2013 here\u2019s the one thing every woman wants in bed\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u2018I\u2019m a sex coach \u2013 here\u2019s the one thing every woman wants in bed\u2019<\/h1>\n

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Sarah Rose Bright is the UK\u2019s first certified sex coach and has helped thousands of clients of all ages. Here she gives her tips to help things go with a bang\u2026<\/p>\n

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It’s at times like these when a set of acrylics can leave permanent damage – be careful!<\/p>\n

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\u2018I became a coach in 2010, after seeking help for my own intimacy issues when I was 29. I was scared of sex – if somebody asked me what I wanted I\u2019d freeze. I didn\u2019t like my body or myself. I\u2019d been in an emotionally abusive relationship in my teens and constantly told I wasn\u2019t good enough or pretty enough.
It was scary to confront my fears, but I sought help. Before that I\u2019d only had one sex education lesson at school and shown what a condom looks like! So I went on courses, then became a certified therapist and now I help other people.
It\u2019s important when looking for a fulfilling sex life to bust the myths. \u00a0The one thing most woman want men to understand in bed is that penetration is not the only way to have fulfilling sex. Don\u2019t always go for orgasm and penetration! Shift your mind so that you enjoy the journey rather than always reaching for the goal.\u00a0 Relax into pleasure and allow it to happen naturally.\u00a0 A lot of women especially need time to unwind from their day before they\u2019re ready for sex so give yourselves time so you can be in the moment.<\/p>\n

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Try not to take it personally if your man can’t get an erection…<\/p>\n

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In actual fact, a man doesn\u2019t even need an erection to be able to either orgasm or even ejaculate. And how hard it is can often ebb and flow – even during sex. While some women can take it personally if a man can\u2019t get an erection, there can be many reasons, such as performance anxiety, stress or medication. If a man isn\u2019t getting an erection and this happens frequently, I recommend a visit to the doctor as this can be a sign of an underlying health condition that needs treatment
Equally people believe that if the sex isn\u2019t great immediately they aren\u2019t a great match. The best sex can take practice to discover how they want to be touched and what they enjoy sexually.\u00a0 And it\u2019s important not to assume that your partner is responsible for your pleasure \u2013 you\u2019re the one who knows what you like so don\u2019t be afraid to say it or show it! Here are my dos and don\u2019ts to help you sizzle between the sheets!<\/p>\n

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Talk about how you like to be touched. Slap or tickle, sir?<\/p>\n

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DO<\/strong>
Get to know your own body<\/strong>
When I\u2019m working with couples I often ask them to touch each other\u2019s hands and then explain how they want to be touched, and be really specific – the type of touch and where. Many people find it hard to articulate what they like for all sorts of reasons. Often people learn to masturbate to orgasm and so they continue doing it the same way. It\u2019s important to explore ways of touching both on your genitals and other body parts to learn what else can turn you on, so you can tell your lover.
Communicate positively<\/strong>
It\u2019s important not to see any pointers from your partner as criticism. But to make it easier for them, try to frame it positively. For example, rather than \u201cI don\u2019t like it when you touch me roughly\u201d, say \u201cI love it when you touch me softly\u201d.
Plan for sex\u2028<\/strong> \u00a0People seem to think when you move in together sex should happen spontaneously. But if you hark back to when you were dating, it was planned and still good. You\u2019d get dressed up for a dinner date and make an effort with your underwear or clothes before heading out and it felt special. Planning can make sex even better when you\u2019re living together.
Also, make time for just \u2018couple\u2019 time. Just because you\u2019ve got a spare moment when the children are out or staying with family, don\u2019t presume you\u2019ll have sex, plan for massages or a date that definitely won\u2019t end with sex so the pressure is off.
Appreciate quality<\/strong>
At periods in your life there simply won\u2019t be the luxury of a lot of time to make love. So focus on still being intimate with each other, kissing goodbye lingeringly, making cups of tea for each other to keep the connection there. And enjoy sex when you have got time. I remember talking to a new mum who was worrying as they weren\u2019t having sex once a week as they\u2019d planned. It simply doesn\u2019t matter so long as you still enjoy it when you can find time.
Learn to love your body<\/strong>
Women particularly can go off sex if they don\u2019t feel good about themselves. Look in the mirror and pick out things you do like about yourself. Be grateful for what your body can do. Focus on what feels good too. What type of touch you like or how your body feels when you are exercising.<\/p>\n

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Remember, not everyone likes oral sex. And besides, who wants to just talk<\/span> about it?\u00a0<\/p>\n

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DON\u2019T<\/strong>
Think everything should be on the menu<\/strong>
You get to define what sex means to you. Just because you like sex, it doesn\u2019t mean you have to like all aspects of it. You might be an adventurous eater, but that doesn\u2019t mean you want to try fried insects! If you don\u2019t want to try something or don\u2019t like something, that is totally fine. And being \u2018vanilla\u2019 isn\u2019t bad if that\u2019s your thing.
Let one thing blight your sex life<\/strong>
Oral sex is something that\u2019s commonly discussed. Some people don\u2019t like either giving or receiving it and others feel it should definitely be on the cards. Discuss it and see if you can work out the reasons why you are adverse to it and if there\u2019s a way that you might enjoy it.\u00a0 But the reality is that sometimes it just isn\u2019t going to happen. There are loads of other ways to enjoy pleasure together and be fulfilled.
Presume<\/strong>
Our bodies change, whether through childbirth, menopause or ageing.\u00a0 Just because something once worked, don\u2019t presume it always will. Be ready to check in and make adjustments. We constantly refine what food we eat or exercise we take according to our changing body, sex should be seen in the same way.\u00a0 And don\u2019t follow the same pattern every time you make love \u2013 it will get boring. Get curious – what sort of connection would I love today?
Panic<\/strong>
It\u2019s normal to have blips. One couple came to me about their sex life as the woman had lost all desire. She\u2019d suffered five bereavements in the previous year so it wasn\u2019t surprising, nor was it a reflection on their relationship. She\u2019d temporarily lost her connection with so many other things going on and sure enough they got back on track over time. If you\u2019re in a long term relationship, desire on both sides will ebb and flow \u2013 it\u2019s doesn\u2019t mean it will be over forever.<\/p>\n

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Therapist Sarah has helped thousands of clients to discover a fulfilling sex life<\/p>\n

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Don’t wait until crisis point<\/strong><\/p>\n

Get help or communicate when you feel it\u2019s going wrong, and not once it\u2019s become a huge issue.
I have couples coming to me when the sex is fine, but they think it can improve and that\u2019s a great time to start, invest in your relationship. And it can be fun to learn together and deepen your relationship.<\/p>\n

FOR MORE INFORMATION GO TO: https:\/\/www.sarahrosebright.co.uk\/\u00a0<\/p>\n

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PHOTOS: GETTY<\/strong><\/p>\n

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