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Elizabeth Wright* first went on an extra marital affair website 11 years ago while still with her husband. She\u2019s since slept with over 20 different men and explains why she can\u2019t get enough<\/p>\n
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Er, it’s not cheating if he’s taken his wedding ring off, right?\u00a0<\/p>\n
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Lying in bed I feel smug and fulfilled. I\u2019ve had mind-blowing sex and now my lover
Tom has left and I have the luxury of a bed in a five-star hotel to myself. I\u2019ve learnt over the years that it\u2019s my perfect scenario. While I love sex and male company I don\u2019t want to be tied down in a conventional relationship again.
And that\u2019s why, aged 56, I choose to only date married men who don\u2019t have the expectation of progressing the relationship by moving in together and settling into domestic drudgery. And not only that – the thrill of illicit and passionate sex is addictive!
I never expected my romantic life to end up like this but I\u2019m glad it\u2019s evolved into something so satisfying.
In my early 20s I played the field but by 25 I dated with a view to settling down and I met and fell in love with my husband Patrick when I was 27 through my work as a lawyer. We married when I was 29 and by the time I was 32 we had our two children \u2013 now 26 and 24.
I thought our marriage was strong and was blindsided 12 years later when Patrick sat me down and confessed he\u2019d had a six week affair with a colleague. It had started when they worked late together on a case and finished when he could bear the guilt no longer. He promised me he didn\u2019t love her and was as in love with me as ever. I couldn\u2019t understand how he could do it, we still had a good sex life, making love at least once a week, we still laughed and joked together and it all seemed fine.
The betrayal made me ill, picturing them together sickened me but I tortured myself by asking him endless questions. I was still very much in love and hadn\u2019t contemplated either of us straying. My knee jerk reaction was to end the marriage, but after long talks we agreed to stay together. I think the fact that he confessed made it easier to keep going and he was very willing to have counselling.
But though we got back to \u2018normal\u2019 after about six months, I still couldn\u2019t understand why he\u2019d done it. And I couldn\u2019t forget.<\/p>\n
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Looking for a married man to have red hot sex with? There’s an app for that!<\/p>\n
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I don\u2019t know what might have happened if I hadn\u2019t come across an article about an extra marital affairs website, but when I read it, I couldn\u2019t stop thinking about it. One evening after a couple of wines, I signed up. I told myself I\u2019d speak to other married men and see if I could understand their motivation and, by doing so, clarify what was going on in Patrick\u2019s head when he cheated. Could men really have sex with absolutely no emotion? Did they really still love their wives?
What I didn\u2019t admit to myself back then but realise with hindsight, was that a tiny part of me was looking for a revenge affair. And inevitably that\u2019s exactly what happened. I got chatting to a man called Simon, he was 49 and owned his own printing company. I\u2019d never done online dating and was astonished by the fact you can feel a connection without meeting in person.
After two weeks we met for a drink in a central London bar and not only did I feel an emotional connection but I found him hugely attractive physically. At the end of the evening we were kissing like teenagers \u2013 the one and only time I\u2019ve ever been so indiscreet. The following week I told Patrick I was going out with the girls and met up with Simon and had incredible sex in a luxury hotel.<\/p>\n
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The best part about hooking up in a hotel bar? You can literally ‘get a room’<\/p>\n
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The biggest surprise was I didn\u2019t feel guilty \u2013 I felt elated. I carried on seeing Simon for three months but then I ended it, worried that I was getting too attached. But I missed the thrill of a new man, feeling so desired and having that excitement in my life was intoxicating. And so I found a new lover \u2013 it\u2019s remarkably easy on these websites, they\u2019re filled with attractive, intelligent and wealthy men.
Though I had no intention of telling Patrick, our marriage suffered. I admit I poured my energy into the children, my work and my lovers in that order. There was little left for him. He became less attractive to me, being with him felt mundane and boring, he didn\u2019t even know he was competing with the excitement of new lovers \u2013 which did make me feel guilty.
After two years I ended our marriage, though I never confessed the real reason. I told him I couldn\u2019t get past his infidelity. It was desperately unfair of me and I\u2019m glad he\u2019s now happily remarried. Though he\u2019d set us on the path to destruction \u2013 I admit I contributed far more. In fairness, though on the surface it\u2019s about excitement and passion, I also think it\u2019s a form of self-defence. Patrick hurt me so much by cheating that I never wanted to feel that vulnerable again. If you aren\u2019t committed to each other and building a life together and deeply in love then you can\u2019t get as hurt.<\/p>\n
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There are many ways to avoid being caught cheating. No1 would probably be lock the door!<\/p>\n
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And I\u2019ve stuck to that. Though it isn\u2019t only protecting myself. I don\u2019t want domesticity. I like living alone, I enjoy my own space to wind down after work or to slob around at the weekends. I don\u2019t get lonely, I have a very active social life and see my children and other family members regularly. A single man would inevitably want to progress a relationship and move in together\u00a0 \u2013 married men relish my desire to be independent. They\u2019re grateful and considerate lovers as they appreciate me. And illicit sex is exciting.
I\u2019ve always got at least one lover on the go, on average they last for six months. One I\u2019ve been with for five years, though he lives in Edinburgh so we only see each other every few months and he accepts the fact that I always have a London lover too. I\u2019ve never fallen in love because I know not to, I compartmentalise and enjoy my time when I\u2019m with them. We go out for dinners, and then make love. Something I\u2019ve found about having illicit sex with men is that it makes them better lovers! One had an exhibitionist streak and we ended up getting a box at the theatre and having sex there which was thrilling for me.<\/p>\n
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Sex in a theatre box: the only time when it’s acceptable to clap after the act<\/p>\n
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I have since discovered I like adventurous sex, experimenting with making love outdoors in parks and very light BDSM. You are careful with each other, with no need to stay together because of finances, children or expectations, you\u2019re both aware that the other one could easily walk away, so you\u2019re always the best version of yourself.
A few close friends know what I\u2019m doing, they don\u2019t approve exactly but they understand. I do sometimes feel guilty about the wives. I know how broken I felt when Patrick confessed to his affair. But at the same time, I\u2019m practical and men will always find a reason and a way to cheat if they\u2019re that way inclined. If it wasn\u2019t me it would be someone else and at least I\u2019m not interested in wrecking any marriages.<\/p>\n
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