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While he’s cosying up to his ex, J.Lo is trying to get her voice heard<\/p>\n
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The pair were spotted recently looking quite cosy together<\/p>\n
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For all their declarations of love and compatibility during their short-lived marriage, there was always one stumbling block when it came to Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck \u2013 and that\u2019s when it came to their attitudes to life in the spotlight. While Ben has always been reluctant to live a public-facing life, preferring his work to do the talking, Jen has conversely played out every decision, emotion and life-changing moment in the public eye. And her actions haven\u2019t changed since announcing their divorce last August, taking to Instagram last month to tell her fans that \u201cSelf-love don\u2019t cost a thing\u201d on Valentine\u2019s Day \u2013 in what many believed to be a thinly-veiled dig at Ben.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Now, we\u2019re told, the actor is feeling increasingly fed up with Jen\u2019s subtle, shady nods towards him and the demise of their relationship on social media \u2013 especially now that he\u2019s spending more time than ever with his first ex-wife, Jennifer Garner. The latter is far more on Ben\u2019s wavelength when it comes to eschewing the limelight, preferring to stay low-key with their three children \u2013 Violet, 19, Fin, 16, and Samuel, 13 \u2013 in tow and prioritising family time together over life in front of the paps. So, as he and Jennifer continue to get closer (and set tongues wagging with their very friendly interactions on family days out), we\u2019re told Ben is laying down the law with the other Jen he divorced. As far as he\u2019s concerned, their amicable split is contingent on her paring down her attention-seeking antics and mentions of their marriage. The way things are going, that stumbling block may be more of a deal breaker than ever.<\/p>\n
\u201cBen has tried to be understanding \u2013 he knows that J.Lo is a public person, so he expects her to eventually have to answer some questions about their relationship,\u201d says an insider close to the former couple, who shocked the world when they reunited in 2021, 17 years after their first engagement ended, and got married in 2022, before splitting for good last year. \u201cHe will probably have to do the same down the road, but what he finds irritating is to see her dangling out these social media tidbits that will obviously be analysed and very linked to him. He wishes she would talk to someone privately about the relationship, instead of this sub-communicating with fans. It\u2019s extra frustrating because the post didn\u2019t name him directly. She\u2019s\u00a0insisting it wasn\u2019t her intention. That doesn\u2019t get her off the hook with him though, he\u2019s very irritated. It really shines a light on why these two were not a good match.\u201d<\/p>\n
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Jennifer Lopez has been making her feelings known on social media<\/p>\n
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When the pair formerly known as Bennifer first announced their split in August 2024, it initially seemed as if they were doing so on good terms. Despite having been quietly estranged for months, Jen, 55, dropped in on Ben, 52, to celebrate his birthday, and has since said that, while she doesn\u2019t regret their marriage, she\u2019s now committed to being on her own, telling The Cut in an interview, \u201cI want to prove to myself that I can do that.\u201d Still, she hasn\u2019t shied away from showing her ex what he\u2019s missing on social media, posting very sexy shots and talking about self-love. In private, we\u2019re told, she\u2019s been keen to keep communication open with Ben, reaching out to him in messages and calls. But he, meanwhile, is far from impressed by her nods to being alone, and referencing in interviews how her \u201cwhole f**king world exploded\u201d last year amid their split \u2013 especially as he is yet to comment on their break-up. So, he\u2019s quietly distancing himself and leaving her calls unanswered.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cBen would love to say he\u2019s surprised that Jen\u2019s making these sorts of shady posts and playing up her \u2018alone\u2019 status, but he really isn\u2019t,\u201d says our source. \u201cHe knows she can\u2019t live without validation. She\u2019s not getting it from him anymore. He\u2019s dialled the time he spends with her way back; he avoids replying to her half the time; and he hardly sees her anymore. He\u2019s been trying to do it gradually and slowly back away, in hopes they can slide into a new dynamic with very limited interaction. He would love to go back to being friends, but that\u2019s something that doesn\u2019t seem all that realistic right now. It\u2019s very obvious that J.Lo still feels very hard done by in all this.\u201d<\/p>\n
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Ben and Jen Garner were married for 13 years and have three kids together<\/p>\n
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While Ben\u2019s general apathy and distance from Jen is guaranteed to sting, the fact that he\u2019s \u2013 simultaneously \u2013 on better terms than ever with his other ex-wife makes their situation even tenser. It\u2019s no secret that Ben has long relied on the mother of his kids for support, regularly stepping out with Jennifer, 52, and their kids for days out and celebrating big events together. He was also believed to have relied heavily on her amid his split from Jen, and has since made it clear that she is the number one Jennifer in his life. The pair spent Thanksgiving and Christmas together as a family last year, and have also been pictured together visiting Violet at college, or picking up Fin and Samuel from school. Then, last week, they sent rumours that they were more than friendly exes into overdrive, after taking their children on a paintball outing \u2013 and cuddling up on camera. As the former couple stood in their protective gear, Ben was seen wrapping his arm around his ex-wife\u2019s waist and drawing her in for a hug. Insiders have since said they were simply sharing a laugh and a friendly moment \u2013 adding that Jen is still happy with her businessman boyfriend, John Miller, whom she\u2019s been seeing since 2018. Still, their cosy\u00a0behaviour didn\u2019t escape anyone\u2019s attention, not least Ms Lopez\u2019s.\u00a0<\/p>\n
We\u2019re told the mum-of-two (who shares 17-year-old twins Emme and Max with her ex-husband Marc Antony) is taking Ben\u2019s actions to heart and reading his silence towards her loud and clear. Whether this will encourage her to stop making veiled digs towards him \u2013 or, instead, will make her up her apparent barbed attacks against him \u2013 remains to be seen.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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