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Jane has rediscovered her libido, but not with her older husband. In fact, she admits she sometimes wishes he\u2019d die so she didn\u2019t have to sneak around to find the sex she craves\u2026<\/p>\n
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Nothing puts a smile on her face quite like swiping right on a hot young man!<\/p>\n
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When I met my husband at a party I fell head over heels in love with him. I was 32 at the time and he was in his late 50s. He seemed mature compared to the men I\u2019d dated recently \u2013 who\u2019d either cheated or had no intention of committing to a relationship. He was full of energy and, like me, loved playing tennis and travel.
He made it clear that he wanted a relationship and showered me with attention, wining and dining me in lovely restaurants.
Within two years we were walking down the aisle. At the time I gave no thought to our 28-year age gap \u2013 it seemed irrelevant. And no-one pointed it out to me that while he was fit and active, time would inevitably take its toll. I wouldn\u2019t have listened to them anyway, I was besotted.
But of course time did take its toll. Now all he wants to do is sit on the sofa and watch television, while I\u2019m young and active and since starting HRT 18 months ago I have a raging libido. I crave sex and it\u2019s not something me and my husband have done for the last 10 years.
In desperation I signed up to an extra marital affairs website Illicit Encounters in January last year and have since had four affairs with younger, married men.
I feel no guilt doing it \u2013 though if I\u2019m brutally honest in my darkest moments I wish my husband would die, so I wouldn\u2019t have to sneak around and create excuses to get out of the house to see them. I realise I sound like a psychopath saying that\u2019s where we\u2019ve got to and I wish it wasn\u2019t the case, but it\u2019s the truth.
I didn\u2019t imagine our relationship would ever disintegrate to this point.
It was good to start with, we travelled a lot and he was kind, thoughtful and generous. Like many couples we drifted a bit when our daughters, now aged 18 and 16, were born \u2013 the holidays and dinners out became rare treats and I realised that we didn\u2019t have much in common beyond that.
I should have left then really, but I was frightened. My wages as a dental nurse weren\u2019t huge and I couldn\u2019t imagine how I\u2019d cope juggling work and the girls. I suggested counselling but he wouldn\u2019t hear of it. And now the girls are on the cusp of leaving home and I\u2019m dreading being alone with him rattling round in our house in Warwickshire, England.
It\u2019s got to the point where we don\u2019t get on at all. The way he walks and even breathes irritates me. His idea of a good night is watching a boring documentary, I crave excitement.
To start with, the lack of sex in our relationship wasn\u2019t a problem \u2013 it faded away with a lack of interest in both sides \u2013 he had performance problems and I was menopausal.
But when I started HRT and my sex drive returned I thought I\u2019d go mad. Signing up to meet married men for sex seemed like the only answer. I needed them to be married as then they\u2019d understand I couldn\u2019t always be available.<\/p>\n
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She fell for him as a silver fox in his 50s – now he’s 81 she wishes he’d just kick the bucket!<\/p>\n
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The first man I met was 48 \u2013 five years younger than me \u2013 and feeling desired and desiring someone again was mind blowing. It lasted for six months and I thought I fell in love. Though looking back now I wonder if it was just lust. It faded out, his kids were younger than mine and it was harder for him to escape the confines of his marriage.
Since then I\u2019ve had three more affairs, each lasting a few months, all of them came with that crazy lust that you get at the beginning of something.
They have all petered out, as really there\u2019s nothing more to it than sex and mutual escapism.
But it\u2019s made me realise how much I want and need a full relationship \u2013 a loving connection. But I can\u2019t leave my husband \u2013 he\u2019s 81, and though I don\u2019t think he loves me, he does need me to look after him. He\u2019d never find anyone else at his age \u2013 he rarely goes out.
A year ago he had an attack of angina, that medics initially thought was a heart attack.\u00a0
I know it\u2019s awful but I couldn\u2019t stop the thought popping into my head that maybe this was the release from my unhappy marriage.\u00a0 Afterwards I was horrified.\u00a0
But I feel so trapped and lonely in my marriage with a man who\u2019s nearly 30 years older than me.\u00a0If he wasn\u2019t there then I\u2019d be free to find happiness with someone who cares about me and gives me the affection I crave rather than having to sneak around.<\/p>\n
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Younger men: Even better than HRT when it comes to giving you a new leave of life!<\/p>\n
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There was a time recently when I was due to meet a lover and my husband dropped it on me that he had a medical appointment. I\u2019m not a complete monster, of course I took him and cancelled my lover. But I resented him for it. Not least because he sprung it on me at the last minute, it was a crushing disappointment.
Stolen moments making love in hotel rooms make me feel life is worth living, I don\u2019t think I could give that up now.
I do feel guilty for the wives of the men I\u2019m having sex with \u2013 they don\u2019t deserve it.
And though I don\u2019t feel guilty about my husband as I did all I could to make the marriage work before I turned to affairs, I find it hard logistically and don\u2019t like sneaking around.\u00a0
I crave a full relationship, someone not only to have sex with but someone to go for walks with and snuggle up on the sofa to watch telly \u2013 and not a history documentary!\u00a0
And sadly, the only way that can happen is if my husband dies.\u00a0<\/p>\n
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