{"id":3240,"date":"2024-05-28T18:52:15","date_gmt":"2024-05-28T18:52:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/?p=3240"},"modified":"2024-05-28T18:52:17","modified_gmt":"2024-05-28T18:52:17","slug":"the-women-whose-bodies-made-them-dump-their-partners-and-the-theories-behind-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/2024\/05\/28\/the-women-whose-bodies-made-them-dump-their-partners-and-the-theories-behind-it\/","title":{"rendered":"The women whose bodies made them dump their partners \u2014\u00a0and the theories behind it"},"content":{"rendered":"\n[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-post-title” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_font=”Black Han Sans|700||on|||||” header_text_align=”center” header_font_size=”46px” header_letter_spacing=”4px” custom_margin=”25px||5px||false|false” custom_padding=”0px||0px||true|false” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” sticky_enabled=”0″]

The women whose bodies made them dump their partners \u2014 and the theories behind it<\/span><\/h1>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-name” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”Black Han Sans|||on|||||” text_text_color=”#000000″ header_4_font=”|||on|||||” header_4_text_align=”center” text_orientation=”center” custom_margin=”||0px||false|false” global_colors_info=”{}”]

Words by Alice Hall<\/strong><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/05\/GettyImages-1182426193.jpg” alt=”Jennifer Aniston” title_text=”Unrecognizable Girl Tearing Apart Photo Of Happy Couple Indoor, Cropped” force_fullwidth=”on” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” min_height=”107px” global_colors_info=”{}”]

In the final year of her relationship with her ex-partner, Catalina Correa, 24, started to notice some unexpected changes in her body. After they slept together, she would experience \u2018random bleeding\u2019 that lasted up to a week, accompanied by \u2018internal discomfort\u2019 when using the bathroom.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018At first, I didn\u2019t think anything of it,\u2019 she says. \u2018I started feeling confused, annoyed, like I was the problem or like I could simply never win when I was with him.\u2019<\/p>\n

After talking to a close friend, Correa thought the problem might be something to do with her. But since they broke up, she has interpreted the symptoms as signs her body physically \u2018rejecting\u2019 her ex. \u2018Our relationship was a tad messy – we formally dated for a few months and then began the on and off cycle that\u00a0many people experience,\u2019 she says. \u2018I think my mind and body knew that he wasn\u2019t the right match for me subconsciously. I was just so stubborn and determined to make it work with him that my mind and body kind of came together to show me what I already knew on some level what I feared.\u2019
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After their relationship ended, Correa slept with someone else and says she had \u2018zero\u2019 health problems. \u2018This kind of confirmed it wasn\u2019t me. Since then, I have never had a single problem with any other partner – not one ounce of pain or discomfort, not one drop of blood. Everything totally disappeared after I stopped sleeping with my ex,\u2019 she says.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″]

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Correa is just one of the many people who have taken to social media to speculate that their bodies physically rejected their ex-partners. Last year, Lyss Boss, host of the Date Yourself Instead podcast, shared a now-viral TikTok in which she detailed how the stress being in a relationship with her ex made her physically sick. \u2018I had a stomach-ache every day, constant anxiety for no reason, bloated like crazy, and had to get an EKG scan for my heart because I was so stressed,\u2019 she said.<\/p>\n

In another now-viral TikTok, creator @keepupwithkaisha says she got \u2018the worst case of strep throat\u2019 she ever had in her life when she was dating an \u2018awful\u2019 guy. \u2018My body was literally telling me they didn\u2019t want anything to do with this person. That he had to go,\u2019 she says. The video has amassed over 275k likes and thousands of comments from women who have undergone similar experiences. One TikTok user wrote \u2018endless UTI\u2019s, BV, nausea every time I was with the last guy I dated.\u2019 Another commented \u2018Yep, for me I would go to the day being fine, whenever it came time to be around him, gut pains & dizziness. I ran away and never looked back.\u2019\u00a0<\/p>\n

There are hundreds of videos under \u2018Can Your Body Reject Your Partner\u2019 on TikTok. In the clips, TikTokers list everything from IBS flare-ups, acne breakouts, bloating, insomnia, irregular periods, UTIs, yeast infections, nausea, palpitations, muscle aches – to name a few. \u2018I haven\u2019t heard of this happening to anyone before, at least not in my inner circle,\u2019 says Correa. \u2018When I saw the original TikTok circulating, it all kind of clicked for the very first time and I realised there\u2019s a whole community of people out there who have gone through similar experiences.\u2019<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_code][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-quote” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_2_font=”Libre Bodoni|||on|||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_text_color=”#333333″ header_2_font_size=”40px” header_2_line_height=”1.2em” global_colors_info=”{}”]

‘Anecdotally, it\u2019s been reported that women dislike their partner\u2019s body odour during the breakdown of a relationship.’<\/h2>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_padding=”|||0px||” global_colors_info=”{}”]

Of course, it\u2019s worth remembering that all this is purely anecdotal \u2013 there has never been definitive proof that your body can physically \u2018reject\u2019 a partner. But there is research to show that negative relationships can take a toll on your health. One study found that women who experienced lots of conflict in their relationships tend to have similarly high blood sugar levels, high blood pressure and high rates of obesity. Another study by The Ohio State University found that married couples who fight excessively are more likely to suffer from \u2018leaky gut\u2019 –\u00a0a condition in which toxins and bacteria \u2018leak\u2019 through the intestinal wall.\u00a0There is even research to suggest that hostile relationships can slow down wound healing. Anecdotally, it\u2019s also been reported that women dislike their partner\u2019s body odour during the breakdown of a relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Naomi Magnus, Relationship Psychotherapist at\u00a0North London Therapy, explains that there is \u2018no scientific grounding\u2019 for the theories about whether your body can reject your partner. In cases such as strep throat and UTIs, she says \u2018specific types of bacteria\u2019 need to be present for the symptoms to occur. \u2018Being in the wrong relationship simply cannot create bacteria – there is no evidence to back up that claim,\u2019 she says.\u00a0<\/p>\n

However, she adds that the theory could be valid in the relationship between emotional wellbeing and physical wellbeing.\u00a0\u2018Feeling low\u00a0can affect sleep, stress levels and general self-care, including a reduction in social network and support seeking. Such an impact could understandably lead to a general depletion in the body’s ability to fight off common infections through a generally lowered immune system,\u2019 she says. \u2018In this way, it would not be surprising if a person was in a bad relationship, for their body to then be more susceptible to illness that they may otherwise be able to effectively fight off.\u2019<\/p>\n

Those\u00a0who have been in a chaotic relationship before will know it can lead to high levels of stress, which can wreak havoc on your health.\u00a0Stress triggers your body\u2019s fight or flight mode and, when experienced chronically, can cause negative health effects on your mood, immune and digestive systems, and cardiovascular health.\u00a0<\/p>\n

When it comes to physical intimacy, Magnus explains that symptoms such as bleeding could be connected to something called \u2018the bristle reaction\u2019, which happens when one partner associates the other\u2019s touch with something difficult. \u2018This means that whenever one partner makes physical contact, the other’s body literally tenses up as they go into fight or flight. The bristle reaction is the body’s way of protecting itself when it doesn\u2019t feel safe,\u2019 she says. \u2018If you\u2019re tense and \u201cbristling\u201d while having sex, you\u2019d be more likely to experience pain and tension and therefore bleeding is more likely.\u2019 She adds that unexplained bleeding after sex should always be discussed with a doctor.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If you are experiencing physical symptoms that you believe to be connected to your partner, Magnus recommends taking some time to reflect on how healthy the relationship is. \u2018While the partner is not able to create illness in you, if your general wellbeing is being negatively impacted by your relationship then all kinds of physical symptoms may arise,\u2019 she says. \u2018I\u2019d recommend talking through what you\u2019re noticing with a trusted friend or relative to get some outside reflections and see where there may be value in what you\u2019re noticing and what may be totally unrelated.\u2019<\/p>\n

As for Correa, she says she will always listen to what her body is telling her when dating future partners. \u2018That\u2019s not to say I\u2019ll stop speaking to someone or dating them because of one bad experience, but now that I know the signs and the patterns, I will most definitely trust what my body is telling me over my heart,\u2019 she says.<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_divider color=”#111111″ divider_position=”center” divider_weight=”2px” module_class=”custom-divider” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_margin=”0px||0px||false|false” custom_padding=”0px||0px||false|false” global_colors_info=”{}”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-texts” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”|||on|||||” text_orientation=”center” custom_margin=”9px|||||” global_colors_info=”{}”]

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