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Words by Emily Andrews [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/08\/imago0474595147h-1-scaled.jpg” alt=”Jennifer Aniston” title_text=”Invictus Games Anniversary service London, UK. Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex at St. Paul\u00e2\ufffd\ufffds cathedral for the anniv” force_fullwidth=”on” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” min_height=”107px” custom_padding=”||0px|||” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n On September 15, Prince Harry turns 40. It\u2019s unlikely that his seminal birthday will be marked with bells and whistles on the royal family\u2019s social media accounts, as is usually the case for senior royals.<\/p>\n In fact, it’s questionable whether his family will even contact him privately. But in the process, after the brickbats, artillery of \u2018truth bombs\u2019 and accusations of Oprah, Netflix and Harry\u2019s biography Spare, he apparently fractured his relationship with his older brother, strained the relationship with his father to breaking point and left many old friends and trusted consiglieres behind.<\/p>\n Some lauded his remarkable resilience and strength of character by throwing out the royal rule book, telling his truth and embarking on a totally new chapter. Now, those closest to the Duke of Sussex say he\u2019s at a crossroads, torn between battling old demons and moving forward with his life as a doting father and devoted husband.<\/p>\n \u2018Is Harry happy?!\u2019 An old friend laughs when I pose this question and repeats it back to me with a wry question mark. \u2018Yeah, I think he is. He still feels very strongly that it was totally the right decision to leave the UK; he had to protect his wife and Archie. Now, he dotes on the kids and loves nothing better than playing with them in the garden, feeding the chickens and taking them to the beach with the dogs.<\/p>\n \u2018Is there sadness there – at what he\u2019s lost, relationships seemingly broken beyond repair? Yes but he genuinely feels he had no other option. The security question and the fact he feels his wife and children are not safe in Britain consumes him.\u2019<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-quote” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_2_font=”Libre Bodoni|||on|||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_text_color=”#333333″ header_2_font_size=”40px” header_2_line_height=”1.2em” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_padding=”|||0px||” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n Family life in the Californian enclave of Montecito, where Harry and Meghan bought a \u00a311 million nine-bedroom house and count pop singer Katy Perry and actress Cameron Diaz as friends and neighbours, is gilded but also quietly domestic.<\/p>\n Harry may have lobbied hard for his children Prince Archie Harrison, five, and Princess Lilibet, three, to keep their regal titles, yet at their private day school and nursery they are merely Archie and Lili – scions of a famous family amongst many others.<\/p>\n Theirs is an all-American childhood with hugs and hotdogs; totally removed from the austere British stiff upper lip boarding school tradition of their father.<\/p>\n Certainly being a hands-on dad and \u2018showering them with affection\u2019 quite literally drives Harry (he\u2019s often on the school run) and will continue to do so as he enters his fifth decade.<\/p>\n He was 12 when his mother Princess Diana died, aged 36, and steering his children through their teenage years (and not sending them away as he was) resonates as his mother was unable to do that for him. Ditto, being a faithful and emotionally available husband to Meghan, whom he credits as \u2018saving\u2019 him from his \u2018dysfunctional\u2019 birth family.<\/p>\n But where his professional life takes him, is more tricky.<\/p>\n The Invictus Games, founded 10 years ago by Harry as an Paralympics-style competition for injured military veterans, is still going strong but the achievements of the Sussexes\u2019 not-for-profit Archewell (motto: \u2018Show Up, Do Good\u2019) is more opaque.<\/p>\n Patrick Jephson, Princess Diana\u2019s former private secretary knew Harry as a young man and now asks: \u2018What is Harry for? No-one can really answer that and I\u2019m not sure if he can. There is a basic inconsistency with what he says he wants and what he\u2019s doing. He says he wants a private life, but if you want that freedom, you get a job, drop out of public life, keep your mouth shut and certainly don\u2019t criticise the constitution of your adopted country.\u2019<\/p>\n Service, Harry says, is what drives him.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-quote” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_2_font=”Libre Bodoni|||on|||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_text_color=”#333333″ header_2_font_size=”40px” header_2_line_height=”1.2em” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n Describing himself on his own Sussex.com website as a \u2018humanitarian, military veteran, mental health advocate and environmental campaigner\u2019, he even cites Spare as an act of service.<\/p>\n ‘I definitely don’t see myself as a victim,’ Harry said when asked last year about the criticism of his book.<\/p>\n ‘To be able to share the things of my life that I think is important feels good – to me it feels like an act of service.<\/p>\n ‘If we can encourage other people to be vulnerable themselves and be vulnerable to their family the world will be a better place.’<\/p>\n Yet many cannot forgive Harry\u2019s decision to air the family\u2019s laundry (and, it is notable that he has reportedly declined to add any updates, new information or chapters for the book\u2019s paperback release, a common practice to boost secondary sales, which has been touted by some as something of an olive branch to the Palace).<\/p>\n William reportedly no longer speaks to his brother – a situation that seems unlikely to change with suggestions that, when the time comes, Harry wouldn\u2019t even be invited to his coronation – while Charles apparently rarely takes his calls (courtiers report he waves away the phone if it’s brought to him).<\/p>\n A friend of both brothers says: \u2018Harry and Meghan could have left with dignity and decency and not tarnished the institution. The conclusion is they\u2019ve made money from trashing his family.\u2019<\/p>\n Yet Harry still feels he can use his position to do good – such as international \u2018tours\u2019 to Nigeria and Columbia where the spotlight can be turned on important causes.<\/p>\n The old friend says: \u2018He still feels he can make a difference – he wants to do, not say. To use his public position to serve. But looking at things a bit more objectively, it\u2019s difficult to see how he can do that without utlising his birthright. He doesn\u2019t really like the \u2018celeb\u2019 aspect of living in California but Meghan is more realistic. She is the one that realises they have to make a living.\u2019<\/p>\n Harry has never tried to conceal one of the main missions he has set himself in life – that of bringing the tabloid press to heel.<\/p>\n Having won substantial damages in his phone hacking case against the Daily Mirror, next year sees the Duke turn his sights on the Sun and the Daily Mail. Those cases, involving allegations of unlawful information gathering, are still in their administrative stages, with trials not due until next year at the earliest.<\/p>\n But \u2018slaying dragons\u2019 as Harry has termed it, has contributed to the fallout with his family.<\/p>\n In an interview this summer with ITV news, Harry said: \u2018I have made it very clear that this is something that needs to be done, it would be nice if we did it as a family. It has caused part of a rift.\u2019<\/p>\n Is that something that can be healed going forward despite Harry\u2019s gilded exile? Unlikely. 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When the Sussexes cut loose from the monarchy in 2020 to make a new life in America, they gained financial independence and the freedom to shape the lives of their young family in whatever way they saw fit.<\/p>\n
Others mocked him for being merely the latest celebrity bauble in the notoriously fickle La La Land of Hollywood.<\/p>\n‘But where his professional life takes him, is more tricky.’<\/h2>\n
‘\u2018slaying dragons\u2019 as Harry has termed it, has contributed to the fallout with his family.’<\/span><\/h2>\n