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Words by Chloe Grace Laws [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/09\/imago134391009-scaled.jpg” title_text=”June 8, 2017, New York, NY, USA: Dave Grohl of the Foo Fighters attends the 2021 MTV Video Music Awards at Barclays Cen” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” min_height=”107px” custom_padding=”||0px|||” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n For over a decade, Dave Grohl has been known as the \u2018nice guy\u2019 of rock. That was until this week. On Wednesday, news broke that the The Foo Fighters frontman fathered a child outside \u2018outside of his marriage.\u2019<\/p>\n In a statement posted to Instagram, Grohl admitted to cheating on his wife Jordyn Blum. He wrote: \u2018I\u2019ve recently become the father of a new baby daughter, born outside of my marriage.\u2019<\/p>\n \u2018I plan to be a loving and supportive parent to her,\u2019 he continued. \u2018I love my wife and my children, and I am doing everything I can to regain their trust and earn their forgiveness. We\u2019re grateful for your consideration toward all the children involved, as we move forward together.\u2019 He has been married to his wife, Jordyn Blum, for 21 years \u2013 since 2003. They have three children together: Violet Maye, Harper Willow, and Ophelia Saint, born in 2006, 2009, and 2014, respectively.<\/p>\n Another claim followed, this time published by The New York Post, claiming that Grohl had formed a \u2018close friendship\u2019 with porn website founder Annaliese Neilsen, described by tabloids as an \u2018alt porn goddess\u2019 and had even been rumoured to have paid her bills \u2013 though Grohl hasn\u2019t commented on this.<\/p>\n A lot of fans have been shocked, and many hurt by the revelation. Grohl has often been seen as \u2018one of the good ones\u2019 and his adultery has shaken that image. Adding fuel to the fire was his statement, strangely written in a passive voice as if he had no control over the situation \u2013 attempting to make cheating on his wife and children look like a freak accident, not his own behaviour. As one X user said, \u2018He sounds like someone left a baby on his doorstep and he had no choice but to gallantly step up and become her father.\u2019<\/p>\n Another disappointed fan tweeted \u2018out of every rock band frontman you\u2019d expect to cheat on their wives and have a baby outside their marriage\u2026dave grohl is at the bottom of everyone\u2019s list [sic].\u2019<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-quote” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_2_font=”Libre Bodoni|||on|||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_text_color=”#333333″ header_2_font_size=”40px” header_2_line_height=”1.2em” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n What this saga has reinforced is perhaps that it\u2019s high time we retired the \u2018nice guy\u2019 label, especially for celebrities. Not only is it parasocial, to deem people we do not know as moral or exceptions to rules, but in the case of the \u2018nice guy\u2019 label it\u2019s actually detrimental to women and feminism. Let me explain. <\/p>\n The \u2018nice guy\u2019 is a myth \u2014 that is not to say nice men do not exist, of course they do, in their billions. It is to say that the label doesn\u2019t, especially when self-dubbed. <\/p>\n There are think pieces titled \u201822 reasons Dave Grohl is the nicest guy in rock\u2019. He does a lot of good, publicly supporting at least 16 charities over the decades. He helps up and coming artists. He was, until recently, a rare family man in the music industry. Like any human, he makes good decisions and bad. I am not here to make judgements on his morality. <\/p>\n Most women will have been subjected to a fake \u2018nice guy before\u2019. You all know one. He hits on you or offers to buy you a drink, or he asks you a couple questions about yourself, and then when you reject his advances tells you to give a nice guy a chance. If you continue to reject him, he will say nice guys finish last, and likely start insulting you. Sometimes, we will turn aggressive in his declaration of niceness. They can be found in every corner of life, waiting to pop up and tell you that you\u2019re stuck up or rude for not entertaining them, and that they\u2019re \u2018actually one of the good guys\u2019. <\/p>\n A lot of men are \u2018nice guys\u2019 until they\u2019re not. A lot of men think they\u2019re nice guys when women would vehemently disagree. Quite a few abusive men, murderers and rapists, have even been given or claimed the \u2018nice guy\u2019 mantle. Like Kylie Clifford, who was reported as being a \u2018nice, normal guy\u2019 after killing Carol, Hannah and Louise Hunt. <\/p>\n \u2018Nice guys\u2019 don\u2019t need to scream from the rooftops about their niceness, they don\u2019t need such an arbitrary label. Their goodness is seen through their actions. Women don\u2019t have a comparative; niceness for us is expected, or meant something entirely different. Being a \u2018nice girl\u2019 or \u2018good girl\u2019 is usually code for subjugation and malleability. Being a \u2018nice guy\u2019 is having a bare minimum level of respect for people, something expected from women without reward. <\/p>\n So, genuine nice guys \u2014 please continue. We appreciate you. \u2018Nice guys\u2019 who use such a label to manipulate women or further their careers, be gone.<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_divider color=”#111111″ divider_position=”center” divider_weight=”2px” module_class=”custom-divider” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_margin=”0px||0px||false|false” custom_padding=”0px||0px||false|false” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-texts” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”|||on|||||” text_orientation=”center” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]<\/p>\n IMAGE: IMAGO<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Most women will have been subjected to a fake \u2018nice guy before\u2019<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":4109,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4108","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-feature"],"acf":[],"modified_by":"kschwarz","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4108","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4108"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4108\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4115,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4108\/revisions\/4115"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4109"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4108"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4108"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4108"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
<\/strong><\/p>\n‘\u2018Nice guys\u2019 don\u2019t need to scream from the rooftops about their niceness, they don\u2019t need such an arbitrary label’<\/h2>\n