She has received online backlash for sleeping with 101 men in 14 hours. Not one gave her an orgasm. Now, Lily explains why she is planning to sleep with 1000 in the same time frame in 2025.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-name” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”Black Han Sans|||on|||||” text_text_color=”#000000″ header_4_font=”|||on|||||” header_4_text_align=”center” text_orientation=”center” custom_margin=”||0px||false|false” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]
Words by Charley Ross<\/strong><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/12\/Lily-1.jpeg” alt=”Lily Phillips” title_text=”Lily 1″ force_fullwidth=”on” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″] Lily Phillips has fast become a household name for perhaps one of the most controversial of reasons. The OnlyFans star filmed herself sleeping with 101 men in 14 hours in October, and in a bid to make a world record, plans to sleep with 1000 in a similar time frame in February 2025. Her notoriety has been met with concern, derision and curiosity \u2013 so why has she set out to do this?<\/p>\n The first question I ask her the morning we meet is what she\u2019s been up to, whether she\u2019s been working \u2013 which involves performing explicit sexual acts on camera, bringing all manner of male sexual fantasies to the screen \u2013 but Lily jokes to me she\u2019s spent the morning \u2018strapped to the table and answering questions\u2019 as part of a series of interviews, mine being one of them. There\u2019s a knowing joke at her own expense that runs through our conversation.<\/p>\n YouTuber Josh Pieters\u2019 documentary followed the events leading up to, during and after Lily\u2019s 14-hour sex session with 101 men in a London Airbnb. Crucially, it captured a rare moment of vulnerability for Lily. \u2018It\u2019s not for the weak,\u2019 we see her say through tears, describing the experience as \u2018intense\u2019 adding \u2018I don\u2019t know if I\u2019d recommend it.\u2019<\/p>\n Almost two months on from when the documentary was filmed, it\u2019s clear that Lily wants to reclaim the narrative around those tears, as well as the shaming, outrage and sympathy that has been thrown her way. She tells me that she looks back on the experience with \u2018fond memories\u2019, likening her approach to that of running a marathon. \u2018This is what I\u2019ve trained for,\u2019 Lily says.<\/p>\n When I ask her about the emotional response we see in the documentary, she explains this was partially due to her feeling added pressure and awkwardness having to ask men to stop due to time constraints. Some complained if she didn\u2019t help them finish. <\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-quote” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_2_font=”Libre Bodoni|||on|||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_text_color=”#333333″ header_2_font_size=”40px” header_2_line_height=”1.2em” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″] \u2018I felt extremely bad, some people travelled across the pond and [I felt] they’re not getting what they signed up for,\u2019 she tells me, reflecting that capturing her raw response to this on camera was perhaps a mistake. \u2018I wish now I had set a boundary and given myself an hour or two to recover before I started answering questions.\u2019<\/p>\n That said, she acknowledges that she was \u2018guilt tripped\u2019 by some of the men, for not being able to give them the time promised. It could be argued that sexual dynamics like this, where men see fit to complain about not getting their allotted time with Lily \u2013 and the emotional impact on her due to that \u2013 are murky at best when it comes to consent.<\/p>\n She assures me that all acts were consensual, but it feels more complicated than that. The pressure she felt, emotionally and physically, to perform is surely problematic. She confirms to me that not one man out of the 101 she slept with that day gave her an orgasm.<\/p>\n Many have said that the entire premise of this kind of extreme OnlyFans content feeds into a male-centric, misogynistic and exploitative expectation on Lily \u2013 and a real-time example of how porn exacerbates the gender orgasm gap \u2013 even if she insists the experience was empowering, and that the physical impact on her was quite minimal. \u2018It wasn’t actually that taxing, although a lot of the guys got me to go on top, which I think, I think was a little bit a little bit cheeky,\u2019 she jokes, adding that the \u2018dissociation\u2019 she confessed to feeling (in Pieters documentary) was due to some \u2018samey\u2019 experiences. \u2018Obviously, with there being so many guys, I’m not just going to remember them all, sorry to break it to them,\u2019 she quips. \u2018They weren’t all memorable.\u2019<\/p>\n Online, the reaction to Lily\u2019s OnlyFans stunt has been divisive. She\u2019s been slut-shamed, called every insulting name under the sun, while other critics have demanded that OnlyFans is taken down as a result. Some have approached her plight with sympathy, suggesting that she is the victim of a larger patriarchal problem and seems \u2018traumatised\u2019 in the footage Pieters released.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2024\/12\/Lily-8.jpeg” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content” alt=”Lily Phillips” title_text=”Lily 8″ hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″] While making it clear she wanted to thank those who reached out with concern, noting she has \u2018never got this influx of nice people messaging me before\u2019, Lily is adamant that actually, she doesn\u2019t really need it. \u2018I hope to God, they direct this energy somewhere else,\u2019 she says. \u2018If they put this into someone who was an actual victim, that would be amazing. And to all people criticising me, agree to disagree. You do what you want, I’ll do what I want.\u2019<\/p>\n She does hope, however, that this concern will translate towards more kindness shown towards women in the sex work industry.\u2019It’s really lovely to see that, especially because I think girls in the adult industry sometimes don’t get enough love. They don’t get heard.\u2019<\/p>\n Lily adds that she felt the documentary humanised her. \u2018I love sex, and I love my job, but I’m also a person,\u2019 she says. \u2018I’m hoping it helped many more girls in the industry, to humanise them as well.\u2019<\/p>\n I point out the lack of backlash against the men who were part of the 101 \u2013 their identities were protected in the documentary, and we see one express anxiety at being found out \u2013 compared to the huge amount of abuse she has shouldered. \u2018I mean, that just tells you a lot about society,\u2019 Lily says. \u2018You never hear about male porn stars saying they\u2019re never going to have kids or find a wife or anything like that. There\u2019s still such huge gender inequality in the industry that needs to change. I remember talking to one male porn star and he told me he was getting high fived at the school gates.\u2019<\/p>\n Lily has raised eyebrows with her self\u2013proclaimed \u2018feminist\u2019 status, but she argues back that she is empowered to do what she likes with her body, and earn money from it if she so chooses. \u2018I would never have anything to say about what other people are doing with their bodies or with their time unless, obviously, they’re harming people,\u2019 she says. \u2018So it’s funny that these \u201cfeminist ladies\u201d are saying that what I’m doing is not empowering\u2026 we shouldn’t be putting people down for having a lot of sex. Is that not what we’re trying to get away from?\u2019<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-quote” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_2_font=”Libre Bodoni|||on|||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_text_color=”#333333″ header_2_font_size=”40px” header_2_line_height=”1.2em” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”] <\/p>\n One could argue that she is, in fact, harming people. At least, that\u2019s what many online are arguing – that the example she\u2019s setting in promoting her work glamourises sex work in a way that doesn\u2019t accurately reflect how difficult and dangerous the industry is for the majority of women involved in it. Some fear young women will be influenced by Lily\u2019s notoriety and be drawn into an industry that is notorious for exploitation.<\/p>\n Her responsibility to, and impact on, young women is something she can\u2019t escape, even if she\u2019d like to. While she is keen to support women entering the industry, her response to being something of a role model is more complicated.<\/p>\n \u2018I’m not an influencer,\u2019 she says. \u2018My target audience is not young girls at all. They\u2019re not the people I want to be promoting my work to. You know, it’s the males. So I find that tricky when, like, people are like, \u201cWhat are you putting out to these young girls?\u201d\u2019<\/p>\n That said, the promotion of her content is primarily on TikTok – that\u2019s where she first went viral for talking about this particular OnlyFans stunt. Alas, she can\u2019t avoid young women on the app from seeing her videos. Lily is, sometimes, candid about the reality of sex work – in particular, the mental impact it can have, and the need for young women to be supported. \u2018People don’t realise that being in the adult industry is as much mental as it is physical. I think sex work is definitely sensitive mentally \u2013 it’s not easy,\u2019 she says.<\/p>\n \u2018When you get into the adult industry, there’s no handbook, it\u2019s the only job in the world that you don’t really get trained for. One thing that I would love to do for girls, is protect them a little bit more and educate people on what it’s like going into the industry, realistically, and just being completely honest.\u2019<\/p>\n OnlyFans\u2019 increasing popularity has seen stars such as Lily Allen and Kate Nash recently speaking out about using the platform to boost their income. Critics have suggested that Lily Phillip\u2019s decision to sleep with 101, then 1000 men was at least partially due to an effort to remain competitive in this overly saturated market.<\/p>\n She disagrees. \u2018I think some girls are pointing out the narrative that they feel like they have to do this, or they have to do this to compete which is just not all true, because there’s always levels to it. One of my best friends in the industry, she only does hand bras, so she doesn’t even show her nipples. And trust me, she is making great money.\u2019<\/p>\n Plans for Lily\u2019s 24-hour 1000-partner sex session are under way. Lessons have been learned from the 101-man \u2018dry run\u2019 – there\u2019ll be more stringent STI testing (after Pieters documentary, viewers were shocked when Lily didn\u2019t appear to realise she could catch HIV through oral sex).<\/p>\n \u2018We\u2019re going to have rapid HIV testing,\u2019 Lily tells me, adding that the sex will be \u2018purely penetrative\u2019 with no oral sex allowed due to the time crunch. \u2018We’re very explicit about the fact that it’s not going to be a five minute love-making session.\u2019<\/p>\n It begs the question, will there be any time for her sexual pleasure this time around, either? \u2018It’s one penetration in and out,\u2019 she tells me. \u2018We’re basically just gonna have a conveyor belt.\u2019<\/p>\n She\u2019s also adamant that the sex she has on camera is for entertainment (I also have questions about who exactly finds it entertaining – or rather, arousing – and what that says about them, but that\u2019s a question for the men who pay for her OnlyFans) and therefore does contrast to her own personal sex life. \u2018The sex I have on camera is different to the sex that we have in real life with a loved one,\u2019 Lily explains. \u2018They’re two different things. So just because you enjoy that, maybe you wouldn’t enjoy doing what I do.\u2019<\/p>\n I ask her what she feels it takes to be successful and safe as a sex worker. She says that above the money and attention, you need to truly love sex as a performance.<\/p>\n \u2018You need to love it, to be able to do what I do,\u2019 she says. \u2018You need to fully love it. This was a hobby before it was work. 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Unfortunately, sex work and social media do go hand in hand nowadays – to get enough of the former, you have to promote on the latter. \u2018If I could do sex work and not be on social media, I would love that,\u2019 she says. \u2018I could do what I love without all the backlash and without all the comments.\u2019<\/p>\n