We need to start having honest conversations.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-name” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”Black Han Sans|||on|||||” text_text_color=”#000000″ header_4_font=”|||on|||||” header_4_text_align=”center” text_orientation=”center” custom_margin=”||0px||false|false” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]
Words by Naomi Holbrook<\/strong><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2025\/03\/Naomi-November2023-7-1-scaled.jpeg” alt=”Naomi Holbrook” title_text=”Naomi-November2023-7″ force_fullwidth=”on” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″] There\u2019s something we need to talk about, but nobody really wants to: weightloss. It dominated the headlines, dinner parties, and group chats for years. Then came the collective rejection. \u201cNo more diets,\u201d we said. \u201cNo more shrinking ourselves.\u201d We celebrated body positivity, body neutrality, and health at every size\u2014and rightly so.\u2028But now? We\u2019re stuck.\u2028Because for many women\u2014smart, successful, socially conscious women\u2014there\u2019s still a very real, very personal struggle\u2014one we don\u2019t quite know how to speak about anymore.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s the dilemma:\u2028You want to feel good in your body, have more energy, move with ease, and feel healthier, and stronger. But saying that out loud, especially if it involves wanting to lose weight, feels loaded. It feels\u2026 wrong.\u2028As if by admitting you want to change your body, you\u2019re betraying your feminist principles. Or letting the sisterhood down.\u2028That\u2019s the catch-22 so many women are caught in today.\u2028We can\u2019t talk about weight loss anymore without feeling guilty for wanting it.\u00a0<\/p>\n This isn\u2019t about vanity.\u2028It\u2019s not about trying to squeeze into skinny jeans for old-time\u2019s sake.\u2028For many women, it\u2019s about reclaiming their health, vitality, and sense of self. It\u2019s about waking up and feeling good in their skin\u2014not exhausted, inflamed, and uncomfortable. It\u2019s about wanting to live fully, with energy and ease.\u2028But we\u2019ve made weight loss such a taboo subject it now requires a trigger warning.\u2028And in doing so, we\u2019ve left countless women navigating their struggles in silence.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”custom-quote” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” header_2_font=”Libre Bodoni|||on|||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_text_color=”#333333″ header_2_font_size=”40px” header_2_line_height=”1.2em” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″] The truth is, admitting you want to lose weight can feel like you\u2019re saying, I hate my body.\u2028But that\u2019s not it.\u2028For most women I work with, it\u2019s the opposite. They want to take care of their bodies in a way they haven\u2019t been able to before. They want to feel free from the obsession, the exhaustion, the shame. But they\u2019re terrified of being judged for it\u2014by their peers, by their friends, sometimes by themselves. I know because I lived it.<\/p>\n At 14, I bought my first tin of SlimFast. I hid it at the back of my wardrobe behind a pile of shoes, terrified my parents would find it and confiscate it. That moment marked the start of a 27-year battle with secret dieting, secret binge eating, and a shame so deep I thought it would never leave me.<\/p>\n I never told my family. I never told my friends.\u2028I thought I should be able to \u201cfix\u201d this on my own. That it was my fault I couldn\u2019t control my weight, that I couldn\u2019t just get on with it.\u2028By my 30s, I was researching gastric surgery. I was convinced I\u2019d never be free of obsessing about food, my body, and the number on the scales.\u2028I didn\u2019t go through with it.\u2028And I\u2019m glad. Because even if I\u2019d lost the weight through surgery, I believe the shame would have still been there.\u2028It was the silence that was keeping me stuck.<\/p>\n For years, I tried every method going.\u2028Diets, pills, detoxes. I exercised until I was exhausted. I restricted. I punished.\u2028And for what? A few fleeting weeks of feeling \u201cin control,\u201d followed by the inevitable ‘falling off the wagon’.\u2028What I\u2019ve learned\u2014and what I teach women now as The Unconventional Weightloss Coach\u2014is that lasting change doesn\u2019t come from punishment. It comes from compassion.\u2028It\u2019s not about \u201closing weight.\u201d It\u2019s about restoring health.\u2028It\u2019s about looking at the physical, emotional, and mental toll that years of dieting, overworking, stress, hormones, and modern life have taken\u2014and doing something different.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2025\/03\/Naomi-November2023-54-scaled.jpg” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″ alt=”Naomi” title_text=”Naomi-November2023-54″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″] I created my SMART Formula\u2014Sleep, Mindful Nutrition, Activity, Rest & Recovery, Time for Self\u2014because that\u2019s what it really takes.\u2028It\u2019s about learning to care for yourself, not control yourself.\u2028And yes, weight loss often happens as a result.\u2028But more importantly, freedom happens.\u2028You stop obsessing. You stop hiding. You stop feeling like you\u2019re fighting yourself every day.<\/p>\n It\u2019s time to end the shame. If you\u2019ve ever felt conflicted about wanting to lose weight, you\u2019re not alone.\u2028If you\u2019ve ever wondered,\u00a0am I allowed to want this?\u2028You are.\u2028Wanting to feel better in your body doesn\u2019t make you shallow. It doesn\u2019t make you less intelligent, less evolved, or less feminist.\u2028It makes you human.\u2028And it\u2019s OK to say it out loud.<\/p>\n We need to give women permission to have this conversation.\u2028Without fear.\u2028Without judgement.\u2028Without shame.\u2028Because you can love yourself and still want to change, you can accept your body and still want to feel different in it. You can be a feminist and still want to lose weight.\u2028It\u2019s not about shrinking yourself to fit into society\u2019s expectations.\u2028It\u2019s about expanding into the woman you know you\u2019re meant to be. And that\u2019s a conversation worth having.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″] Naomi Holbrook is a weightloss coach and best-selling author. You can visit her website here<\/a>, and her book, Your Weight Is Not The Problem, is out now<\/a>.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_divider color=”#111111″ divider_position=”center” divider_weight=”2px” module_class=”custom-divider” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_margin=”0px||0px||false|false” custom_padding=”0px||0px||false|false” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-texts” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”|||on|||||” text_orientation=”center” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″] Photo: <\/b>Naomi Holbrook<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" We need to have the hard conversation.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":8201,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[8,4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8196","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-feature","category-news"],"acf":[],"modified_by":"guestgrazia","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8196","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8196"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8196\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8208,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8196\/revisions\/8208"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8201"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8196"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8196"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8196"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}‘Admitting you want to lose weight can you feel like you’re saying you hate your body.’<\/h2>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]