This new insult to women has spiralled out of control…<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-name” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”Black Han Sans|||on|||||” text_text_color=”#000000″ header_4_font=”|||on|||||” header_4_text_align=”center” text_orientation=”center” custom_margin=”||0px||false|false” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″]
Words by Georgia Aspinall<\/strong><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/flatplan-plus-content.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2025\/04\/GettyImages-518270440.jpg” alt=”Ellen Pompeo” title_text=”ABC’s %22Grey’s Anatomy%22 – Season Twelve” force_fullwidth=”on” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″] Have you ever been called a ‘pick me’ girl? Or are you over the age of 30 and have absolutely no idea what that even means? Rest assured, dear reader, we can help you – here’s everything to know about the misogyny-laced adjective plaguing social media.<\/p>\n A \u2018Pick Me Girl\u2019 is an evolution of the \u2018cool girl\u2019, or the ‘not like other girls’ girl’. They seek male validation above all else, to the detriment of other women and often themselves.<\/p>\n The female foot soldiers of the patriarchy, their interests are designed solely to impress men (their opinions moulded to the man of the moment \u2013 be they sexist or not) and crucially, they have no time or respect for other women. As the name suggests, everything they do screams \u2018PICK ME, CHOOSE ME, LOVE ME\u2019 to the men around them. They’re women with so much internalised misogyny they might not even realise how mortifying their actions are.<\/p>\n Being so cringe then, making fun of \u2018Pick Me Girls\u2019 is an easy content opportunity for TikTokers. Mimicking their behaviour, many a content creator has gone viral for their \u2018Pick Me Girl\u2019 POV (point of view) videos. In fact,\u2018Pick Me Girl\u2019 content is so popular it\u2019s sparked intense Google search trends. \u2018What is a Pick Me Girl?\u2019 is consistently a breakout search term on Google, as well as \u2018Pick Me Girl traits’, ‘Pick Me Girl meaning\u2019 and \u2013 thankfully, or not as the case may be \u2013 \u2018what is a Pick Me Boy\u2019. Because that\u2019s the thing, \u2018Pick Me\u2019 behaviour isn\u2019t exclusive to women, women have just experienced the brunt of the trolling.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content” sticky_enabled=”0″] The term ‘Pick Me Girl’ first appeared on X in 2016 with the hashtag #TweetLikeAPickMe, with people mocking girls who called themselves \u2018wifey material\u2019, drawing attention to their traditionally \u2018feminine\u2019 virtues and habits. It’s an extension of the infamous scene in Grey’s Anatomy when Meredith Grey exclaims ‘Pick me, choose me, love me!’ To Dr Derek Shepherd (who, spoiler alert, does not go on to pick her). It’s a scene so awkward that Ellen Pompeo herself (who plays Grey) didn’t want to shoot it. Alas, the ‘pick me’ girl was born.<\/p>\n In men, \u2018Pick Me\u2019 behaviour typically inverts the trend of seeking male validation. Instead, these men do everything they can to impress women, but usually with ill-intent. \u2018Pick Me Boys\u2019 are the modern-day fake feminist guy, \u2018nice guys\u2019 who typically love-bomb women, pretend to have the same interests only to emotionally manipulate them later on. They\u2019ll put themselves down intentionally to seek validation from women, and fish for compliments by comparing themselves to other men.<\/p>\n The sad thing is, the meaning of \u2018Pick Me\u2019 behaviour is becoming skewed on social media. What started off as an innocent and often funny trend that forces those who might be partial to \u2018Pick Me\u2019 behaviour\u2019 has spiralled out of control.<\/p>\n Now, it\u2019s primarily used as another stick to beat women with, with the term being thrown at anyone who shows an interest in male-dominated hobbies or dares to call themselves \u2018weird\u2019. While some have used the \u2018Pick Me Girl\u2019 trend to legitimately call out sexist behaviour displayed by other women, others have simply used it to escalate said sexism and harass women on the app. It\u2019s become the insult of all insults, used against women for the slightest thing when actually, ‘Pick Me Girls’ in their fullest form rarely exist \u2013 at least after a certain age.<\/p>\n We might all know someone who\u2019s partial to the occasional \u2018Pick Me\u2019 comment, but being a \u2018Pick Me Girl\u2019 is a phase of adolescence that many grow out of when they realise\u2026 men are really not worth all this. Certainly by your late 20s \u2013 particularly in the current dating landscape \u2013 it\u2019s a common female experience to look back on all of the ways you sought male attention as a youngster and well\u2026 cringe.<\/p>\n Yes, there may still be \u2018Pick Me Girls\u2019 at 40, 50 and 60 even, but it\u2019s wise to remember that there would be no \u2018Pick Me Girls\u2019 at all if it weren\u2019t for the patriarchy in the first place \u2013 so perhaps we should be bashing the men that uphold it rather than the women falling victim to it, even if they are, admittedly, bloody annoying.<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_divider color=”#111111″ divider_position=”center” divider_weight=”2px” module_class=”custom-divider” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” custom_margin=”0px||0px||false|false” custom_padding=”0px||0px||false|false” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][\/et_pb_divider][et_pb_text module_class=”credit-texts” _builder_version=”4.20.4″ _module_preset=”default” text_font=”|||on|||||” text_orientation=”center” global_colors_info=”{}” theme_builder_area=”post_content”] Photo: <\/b>Getty<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When did everything become ‘pick me’?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":9068,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9063","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news"],"acf":[],"modified_by":"guestgrazia","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9063","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9063"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9063\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9070,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9063\/revisions\/9070"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9068"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9063"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9063"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/flatplanplus.io\/grazia\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9063"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}What is a ‘pick me’ girl?<\/h2>\n
What is the origin of the ‘Pick Me Girl’ trend?<\/h2>\n
What are ‘Pick Me Girl’ traits?<\/h2>\n
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What is a ‘Pick Me’ boy?<\/h2>\n
But there’s a problem with the ‘pick me’ phrasing…<\/h2>\n