Kate Hudson is the ultimate A-list muse. Her film credits are outstanding, she’s got a wardrobe to die for, and above all else she’s refreshingly honest. The latest example of that? When she got real about her sex life in a new interview, noting that it only improves with age.

The 45-year-old star is currently starring in Netflix’s Running Point, a 10-part comedy series written by Mindy Kaling and starring Max Greenfield and Justin Theroux. The show sees Hudson take on the role of a reformed party girl attempting to prove herself as a corporate CEO of a basketball team, her authenticity a defining part of her character. So, in true Hudson fashion, she plays the character perfectly.

Now, in an interview with Bustle to promote the series, Hudson shared her pearls of wisdom about sex. ‘Best part about sex in your 40s, honestly, is the freedom,’ she said. ‘Sex isn’t supposed to be pretty…and I think that when you get older you kind of have more fun with that.’

You heard it here first folks, sex is not supposed to be a perfect performance! Far from what’s indoctrinated into young men through porn, the best sex is far from pristine. With age, of course, comes the confidence to accept that. Truly, caring less has never felt more good.

Hudson also confessed to being the ‘biggest flirt on the planet’, thanking her partner Danny Fujikawa for ‘handling’ it. ‘I think anybody who’s ever been with me is very aware that I flirt with everybody – girls, boys,’ she said. ‘“Thank God Danny is my partner. He can handle this. I met the right guy.’

Hudson met Fujikawa more than 15 years ago, through friends Sara and Erin Foster, and began dating in 2016. They had their first daughter, Rani Rose, in 2018 and announced their engagement in 2021. Hudson has two other children from previous marriages, Ryder with musician Chris Robinson and Binham with Muse vocalist Matt Bellamy. A co-parenting pro, Hudson has spoken highly of all of her husbands, previously saying that Robinson loved her unconditionally and that she loves Bellamy ‘so much’.

It’s not the first time Hudson has candidly spoke about sex, noting that her mother Goldie Hawn also has a ‘sexually orientated type of personality.’ In an interview with People in 2022, Hawn said ‘We talk a lot about sex, surprisingly’ as Hudson added that she ‘isn’t a prude’, with Hawn teaching her that sex should be ‘so much fun’. And on National Sex Day, Hudson posted online ‘If anybody needs me, I’m going to be in my bedroom for a good, I’m gonna say hour [and] 20…if he can handle it.’

Truly, it’s a dynamic we rarely see in Hollywood – a mother and daughter openly talking about the joy of sex. At a time when women’s sexual agency is being attacked online, with misogynistic influencers like Andrew Tate regurgitating harmful myths about women’s value being tied to their sexual activity, it’s refreshing to see such powerful women openly express their love of sex without fear of judgement.

Because let’s be clear – having lots of sex, talking about sex, getting real about the changes that happen in our sex lives as we age, it’s all part of the joy of the human experience. Particularly, when so few people are actually enjoying their sex lives right now.

According to relationship expert Moraya Seeger DeGeare, the in-house expert at relationship care app Paired, creativity and freedom is the key to maintaining a healthy sex life in longer relationships where so often sex can start to feel stale or become less of a priority.

‘In long-term relationships, we need to honour that we will go through many changes and chapters that can directly impact our ability to have a sustainable sex life,’ DeGeare explains. ‘The key to deepening the passion and intimacy in our relationships is to shift our mindset from longing for a past time when sex was good to being curious about how to keep it alive in this chapter. You can do that by mixing things up, building anticipation by scheduling sex in a way that excites you both, and having some fun with it. The beauty of having deep belonging and a secure attachment in a long-term relationship is that you have the flexibility to be curious and creative in your sex life.’

So there you have it, Hudson’s got it all figured out!